How do you ask your family to help out with some of the wedding bills? By the time you add up the dress, limo, venue and caterer, flowers, music, photographer, wedding cake, and so much more, you will be amazed at your final tally.
First and most important rule is don’t spend more than you can afford. A very nice and elegant wedding can be done on a budget.
In the past, parents of the bride would traditionally pay for the wedding while the groom’s parents took care of the rehearsal dinner. Boy, has this changed. More and more couples are paying for the wedding on their own and finding it very difficult to stay within their budget. What can you do for help?
Obviously both sets of parents are going to contribute some type of monetary gift to the wedding. The best thing you can do is set out a budget, put down all the items you would like to have and attach a cost associated with it. Once this has been completed then set up a night with both sets of parents to let me know where you stand and areas you may need assistance in. “Old school” parents want to see everything on paper and know exactly what you are spending. See what their reactions are like because they may come out and say they are going to contribute a certain dollar amount. If they don’ t say anything at all then you should approach the topic carefully and ask if they would help with a couple of things.
You know what financial situation your families are in so if you feel this would put too much pressure on them don’t ask for help and let them come to you. Keep in mind though if you are asking for help they will have something to say about certain costs and you will most likely hear “do you really need that”?
If you are one of those lucky brides where Daddy is paying for it all then that is great. If things don’t work out that way and you both are paying for the entire bill, you will receive gifts of money from your guests that you can certainly put towards all of your purchases. Having a wedding is not a way to make money anymore. Most couples are just happy to break even and enjoy the celebration!