Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

Exchanging your wedding vows will be one of the most remembered moments of your ceremony.  That is when you say true words from your heart to each other.  Very few couples can come up with a last minute vow on the day of the wedding so take some time over the  weeks leading up to the wedding.  Do make sure that you discuss this with your officiant to ensure they will allow you to write them.  Many prefer that you used the traditional scripts.

What to say?  You and your fiance know each other best so speak from your heart.  Do you want to make it very traditional, create your own words or perhaps add a little humour?  Don’t make your vows sound as if you are doing a comedy show though.  This is a serious time so ensure to share your love and feelings for one another.  Perhaps you  want to write your vows together.  For some couples, they prefer to write them separately and share them for the first time at the altar.  Do your best to keep it short and no longer than a minute or two.  Remember, there is still plenty of time at the reception during the bride/groom speech to say a few more words.

Once you have it completed take sometime to practice it and memorize what you wrote.  If you feel comfortable then feel free to share with a family member or close friend.

The ceremony is truly the most meaningful part of a wedding.  Many times we forget this and concentrate so much time and energy on the reception, glitz and glamour and overlook on what is really important.

 

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Walking Down the Aisle with Both Mom & Dad

Are you walking down the aisle with your dad, mom or both?

Some traditions may never change, but the idea of a bride walking down the aisle with her dad has taken a different direction.   Usually, the mother of the bride is walked in by the best man or the groom himself which means the bride and her father are next.  Yes, you are daddy’s girl and always will be, but how about all the nurturing you have received from your mom over the years?

Many brides are now considering or deciding to ask their mom and dad to walk them down the aisle.  They feel both parents have played an equally important role in their life and are both deserving of this special moment.

There are still a few questions they may have, because the role is so traditional. If you are worried then there are always other options.  You can walk with your dad to start and then your mom meets you half way or all three of you can walk down the aisle, your mom takes a seat and your dad brings you to your future husband.  I have heard some critics say that if a mother walks with the bride it will take the focus away from the bride.  I can’t agree with this statement because a bride will definitely be the centre of the attention all day, no matter what.

This cost would be much more economical than providing a full hot lunch.  You would not need a pastry table or even a wedding cake as your pastry items such as croissants and baked goods will be included in your buffet breakfast.  No worry of opening a bar or serving wine because no one is going to expect alcohol at breakfast.  Remember though if you wanted a little something you could also add in some Mimosa’s (champagne and orange juice).

If you choose a restaurant or your home then your decor would be very minimal.  You can set out a nice bud vase with a rose or two with some baby breaths and perhaps one or two larger floral arrangements on the buffet stations.  Just purchase a few dozen roses or carnations and you can make these yourself.  Seat covers or linens would not need to be rented.

It’s a very cool idea and you should consider it as an option.   Remember though, the invitation should say “breakfast with the bride” which makes it’s such a cute idea.

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Bridezilla Warning Signs

There is a bridezilla in every bride but the question remains if it is controlled or not. All of us have different personality types and perhaps that may play a role in becoming a bridezilla or not.  Any stressful situation can bring the worst out of us whether it’s a death, financial problems or planning a wedding.

Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your lives and you want everything to be perfect.  I guess the key word here is “perfection”.  To reach perfection is virtually impossible and we must learn to cope with some of the ups and downs that you will cross along the way.

Are you a bride in the green zone? Green being very relaxed and you just go with the flow.  You don’t obsess about the wedding 24/7  and openly accept help from others.  You know what you want and plan everything in it’s appropriate time  frame.

There are subtle warning signs of becoming a bridezilla which I call the yellow zone.  What are some of these signs you ask?  Well, do you think, live and breath wedding details?  Are you constantly on-line looking up information for hours on end? Do you find that you are spending less time with your fiance? Are you acting selfish and only talk about the wedding to every person you see or meet?  If you are answering yes to two or more of these questions you may be entering the yellow zone meaning “proceed with caution”.  If you don’t proceed with caution then you are allowing yourself to enter the red zone.

The red zone is full blown bridezilla tendencies and most likely you have gone to far.   Are you angry or edgy all the time? Has a bridesmaid dropped out from your wedding party?  Are you friends staying away from you more than usual?  Do you fight more with your fiance?  Are you having disagreements or changing vendors on a regular basis? Do you react very quickly to the slightest problem or change in your wedding planning?   If you have answered yes to two or more of these questions than you need to stop, take a deep breath and remember what your wedding is really all about.

As a wedding planner, I can tell within my first 10 minute consultation what type of bride she will be.  My job is to make them feel as comfortable as possible.  Since I am not part of their family, they find it very easy to speak with me about problems or questions as I will not judge them.

Brides, you don’t have to do it alone.   You don’t have to control every little detail.  Put some trust in your family, friends and fiance to help you along the way.  The more relaxed and calmer you are the better the wedding day will be.  Always remember….. if something  should go wrong, you are the only one who will knows as the guests were not privy to your planning process information.

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