The Rules of Wedding Gift Giving and Receiving
One of the most exciting parts of a wedding is gift giving and receiving. This is an important tradition both for the couples receiving the gift and the friends and family who will be choosing one for them. It can also be a daunting task as a few rules are associated with it. Here are the basic etiquette of giving and receiving wedding gifts:
Cash gifts are easier to give and especially more convenient to receive.
However, it is still considered impolite to indicate ‘cash only’ or any fancier versions in the wedding invitation. If you would rather accept cash than gravy boats, the acceptable way to let your guests know is have your closest friends and family get word around that envelopes are preferable to hefty gift boxes. This goes without saying that subtlety is important when trying to pull this off.
Variety and reason are two very important components in a registry.
You need variety in your registry so that your guests have options in what to give you. Have a good mix of different items at different price tags so that you friends and family will be comfortable and excited with the gifts they are giving. Also, be reasonable in asking. Specific, non-traditional items like electronic gadgets or sports gears are a great guide for your guests but always avoid asking for over indulgent items.
No need to open the gifts at the presence of the givers.
It may seem traditional, but opening gifts at the reception for everyone to see your pleased expressions are no longer necessary.
In the event that the wedding is cancelled, it is required for the couple to return gifts.
A note, that is short and discreet, should be included as an explanation. Personalized gifts need not be returned even if the wedding does not push through.
When giving a gift that is to be part of the wedding, make sure to consult the bride and groom about its full details.
If you would like to take care of the flowers as a wedding gift, make sure to run it by the couple and the decorator so that it is included in the wedding planning and will fit right in to the whole motif. If you are generous enough to shoulder a DJ or a Scottish wedding band, make sure playlists are pre-approved by the couple.
Write a “Thank You” note.
Writing a Thank You note is an absolute must whether you have taken the time to thank the giver in person or not. Express gratitude in your note and always mention the item that you have received. This will make the note personalized instead of sending generic ones.
Wedding gifts are a part of wedding tradition because it shows the love and support friends and family have for the bride and groom. The cost and the kind of gifts are often irrelevant. At the end of the day the two most important things are the thought put into giving gifts and the appreciation showed when receiving them.
About the author: Melissa Page is a professional writer who loves everything about weddings. She blogs for Music for Scotland Ltd, a premier live music agency who represents reputable DJs, classical musicians and talented wedding bands across Scotland. When she’s not busy writing, she hangs out with her friends in a coffee shop. She also loves traveling, bowling, and books.