Is or Was your Wedding a Dream Come True?

imagesCA8M10362 Is or Was your Wedding a Dream Come True?The last of the guests walk out the door, the venue staff packs up your items, and your family members are loading up the car with gifts.  You and your husband make your way out after a magical evening, stop and look back, and realize the night has come to an end.  You wake up the next morning and start your new life together.

Following the wedding, did you ever regret anything you did or did not do?  Was your dress not exactly what you planned?  Was the food and beverage not ample for all the guests?  Did everyone enjoy the venue selection?  Did the day run smoothly?

It is very normal for a bride to look back on the big day and wonder – what if?  It is perfectly okay to ask yourself a few questions, but you should not second guess any of your decisions.  Remember that hopefully, you were in complete control of the outcome, and should be very pleased with how everything worked out.  And maybe the flowers that had to be flown in from Europe just couldn’t fit your budget, but the ones you choose were probably perfect for you.  It’s really not a big deal if one of the napkins was not folded properly, but these are the little things that only the bride will notice.  Do not spend time and stress worrying about small details like that.

I’ve seen it countless times – everyone gets caught up with the word “wedding” and immediately think it has to be lavish and extravagant.  The truth is, it’s all about the people in that room and the love you will share with them.  Things like reality television, social networking, royal weddings, and the “hot trends” of the year have warped the minds of many brides into thinking they absolutely need a Cinderella experience on their big day, and it causes them grief if they cannot have it.  But it must be remembered that this can be achieved in ways other than with decorations, cakes, and a ball gown.

Do not look back on the things you ”should have” done.  It really is not worth it.  Twenty years from now, when you look back at your wedding video and photos you should not see regret, but love.  And you may even have a good laugh at a few things, as trends are constantly changing.  Even my own colour selection from my wedding twenty years ago shocks me today…pink and royal blue! I would never have chosen those colours today, but I certainly don’t regret a single thing.

More important than the tablecloths or the bridesmaids’ gowns will be the love shared between the bride, groom, family and friends.  If you are feeling any negativity after the wedding, try to clear those thoughts immediately and think only of love.  You did the very best you could, and I’m sure it turned out to be absolutely amazing.

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Mother of Groom Wants to Help with Your Wedding Planning

ijsyimage1 Mother of Groom Wants to Help with Your Wedding PlanningMother of the Groom wants to help……what do you do when your future mother-in-law wants to help plan your wedding?

Weddings are a very stressful time for all involved and as difficult it can be between a bride and her own mother, there can be some tension when your future mother-in-law wants to participate.

Weddings are a joyous occasion and the mother of the bride will take part in many aspects of the wedding planning. You always hear “I’m the mother of the bride” as if it gives her the okay to take charge and yes she does have some say!.  If a disagreement should arise it is very easy for the bride to take her mom aside and have a heart to heart conversation.

When dealing with your future husbands mom you may have to tread a little lighter.   The wedding for her son is a very big deal for her as well and she wants to be part of his special day.  She will want to help out with whatever she can.  Do you make you feel wanted and comfortable?  Of course you do as you are now part of her family.  You may not want to give her too much to keep control on things but do pass on some smaller tasks such as making or boxing favours, helping with the invitations or perhaps baking some pastries for the reception.  She will be happy to help.

Your fiance will be also be happy that you included his mom and it will set a good tone for your future daughter-in-law / mother in law relationship.  Sure you may not agree with everything she does or says but if you have open communication you will be able to share your feelings.

 

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Wedding Reception Kissing Game Ideas

Wedding kiss Wedding Reception Kissing Game IdeasWhat kind of wedding reception kissing game should you do?  You have just been introduced and are seated at the head table.  Your master of ceremonies starts welcoming the guests and makes a few announcements.  Some of the items he may mention are: welcoming everyone for coming, give directions to bathrooms,  and let guests know if the bar will be open or closed during dinner.
One topic that the MC will share with the guests is how the bride/groom have decided  “how they will kiss”.  Traditionally , clanging of the dishes is the normal way but this is becoming less and less popular.  Actually, most venues prefer that guests do not hit their dishes.  Not only can it cause damage to the dishware but can become an annoying sound to all the guests.
Let’s look at some new and cool ideas instead.  I know I have touched on some of these areas in my previous posts.  How about a hula hoop or ring toss.  What about having the guests sing a love song, tell a joke or story about the bride and groom.  You can even add games like a putting contest, roulette wheel or twister.
How about balloons with a note inside.  The guest must pop the balloon and follow the instructions that are inside the ballroom no matter how silly it may be.  Have you ever considered a donation box that is left at the head table.  Each time a guest wants you to kiss they can put some change in the charity box.  What a nice idea to give back!  Place a bowl of Hershey kisses on each guest table and every-time a guest bring a Hershey kiss to the bride/groom they kiss and then have to eat the chocolate!
 Let the D.J. get in on the action and have guests request a song and when he plays it the bride/groom have to kiss.  You can pre-set maracas, thunder sticks, whistles and when the guests start to use these that is the sign for the bride/groom kiss.  If this may be too loud for you then have all the guests wave their napkins in the air.   Nice to work it out with the D.J and add a little music with the napkin waving.
There are endless options out there and if none of these interest you then try to create your own idea.  It’s just another way to get your guests involved in the evening and have fun!
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Digital or e Wedding Invitations

digitalinvitations 150x150 Digital or e Wedding InvitationsDigital or electronic wedding invitations….is this going to be the new trend for brides?  The use of personal electronics and social media is rapidly increasing with smart phones, tablets and laptops, all streaming to Youtube, Facebook, Twitter, Google + (maybe) and MySpace (maybe just a few old aunts and uncles).   It is uncommon these days to find many people,  from young to old, that have not been actively participating in a social network or at the very least have an email address.

Let’s explore the idea of digital wedding invitations.  There are pro’s and con’s to everything so let’s take a look at both.

Pro’s:

You will probably save time and money.  Invitation and postage costs can be outrageous and the time it takes to hand-write addresses are extreme without help.

All those things you used to photocopy and insert in traditional invitations (maps, hotel information) can be included, even by providing links.

You can be as creative as you want instead of just picking an invitation style and color of ink.

You may just save a tree or two.

Con’s:

Are you the traditionalist type of person and wants to send out the elegant wedding invitation?  There really is no substitute for a beautiful paper invitation.invitations2 150x150 Digital or e Wedding Invitations

Is it important for you and grandma to keep this invitation in a scrapbook to remember?  May sound silly, but are you really going to sit down with your daughters 10 or 20 years from now and pull out your memories on your iPhone?

What about compiling the email list.  You need to find out everyone’s email address and that may be a daunting task in itself.  As you start to compile your list you are faced with some guests who do not have email or even a computer?  What do you do then?

There is no doubt, an e-invitation would be spectacular!  You can personalize your own on-line wedding invitation with music,  pictures or video and give your itinerary for the day.  How impressive would it be to Google map the church, reception hall and hotels?  Provide links to the reception hall and maybe a link to Trip advisor for the hotels.  Create a wedding email account to manage RSVP’s just as if you were mailing out a paper invitation.

Ultimately, it is your decision on what type of invitation you want to provide.  As this digital idea may seem a little strange at first, I think times are a changing and it will become very popular in the years to come and more accepted.

 

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