Walking Down the Aisle with Both Mom & Dad

Are you walking down the aisle with your dad, mom or both?

Some traditions may never change, but the idea of a bride walking down the aisle with her dad has taken a different direction.   Usually, the mother of the bride is walked in by the best man or the groom himself which means the bride and her father are next.  Yes, you are daddy’s girl and always will be, but how about all the nurturing you have received from your mom over the years?

Many brides are now considering or deciding to ask their mom and dad to walk them down the aisle.  They feel both parents have played an equally important role in their life and are both deserving of this special moment.

There are still a few questions they may have, because the role is so traditional. If you are worried then there are always other options.  You can walk with your dad to start and then your mom meets you half way or all three of you can walk down the aisle, your mom takes a seat and your dad brings you to your future husband.  I have heard some critics say that if a mother walks with the bride it will take the focus away from the bride.  I can’t agree with this statement because a bride will definitely be the centre of the attention all day, no matter what.

There is no right or wrong answer here.  If you want both your mom and dad to walk you down that aisle then go for it.  Your father will certainly not be disappointed and your mom will be very touched.  Remember, you always have that very special father and daughter dance!

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Breakfast with the Bride: New Bridal Shower Trend

Almost all brides have a bridal shower hosted by their mom or future mother-in-law.  A date is usually set anywhere from 6 weeks to two months before the wedding date.  The bridal shower is a smaller gathering of ladies where a nice meal, casual setting and opening of gifts take place.

It can be booked in a reception hall, private club, restaurant, or someone’s home.  If you decide to book the bridal shower in the same venue as your wedding reception then make sure to ask if a special discount will apply.  Many venues will offer either a free room rental or even a meal discount!

Weddings are so expensive that many want to cut down their bridal showers costs.  Serving a buffet breakfast is the new trend for 2012 and 2013 which is surprisingly inexpensive to do.    The guests are invited earlier in the morning around 10:30 and then have a buffet breakfast for 11:00AM.  Games and opening of gifts take place immediately after the breakfast and the afternoon should end by 2:00PM.  This is a nice time so that all guests can be home with their family for dinner.

The invitation would say “breakfast with the bride” so it would not be a surprise to your guests that you are serving breakfast.  How many ladies don’t like breakfast?  Some ideas are egg benedict’s,  waffles, and crepes to name a few.  As the guests arrive you can even butler pass orange and cranberry juice which would be a nice touch.

This cost would be much more economical than providing a full hot lunch.  You would not need a pastry table or even a wedding cake as your pastry items such as croissants and baked goods will be included in your buffet breakfast.  No worry of opening a bar or serving wine because no one is going to expect alcohol at breakfast.  Remember though if you wanted a little something you could also add in some Mimosa’s (champagne and orange juice).

If you choose a restaurant or your home then your decor would be very minimal.  You can set out a nice bud vase with a rose or two with some baby breaths and perhaps one or two larger floral arrangements on the buffet stations.  Just purchase a few dozen roses or carnations and you can make these yourself.  Seat covers or linens would not need to be rented.

It’s a very cool idea and you should consider it as an option.   Remember though, the invitation should say “breakfast with the bride” which makes it’s such a cute idea.

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Bridezilla Warning Signs

There is a bridezilla in every bride but the question remains if it is controlled or not. All of us have different personality types and perhaps that may play a role in becoming a bridezilla or not.  Any stressful situation can bring the worst out of us whether it’s a death, financial problems or planning a wedding.

Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your lives and you want everything to be perfect.  I guess the key word here is “perfection”.  To reach perfection is virtually impossible and we must learn to cope with some of the ups and downs that you will cross along the way.

Are you a bride in the green zone? Green being very relaxed and you just go with the flow.  You don’t obsess about the wedding 24/7  and openly accept help from others.  You know what you want and plan everything in it’s appropriate time  frame.

There are subtle warning signs of becoming a bridezilla which I call the yellow zone.  What are some of these signs you ask?  Well, do you think, live and breath wedding details?  Are you constantly on-line looking up information for hours on end? Do you find that you are spending less time with your fiance? Are you acting selfish and only talk about the wedding to every person you see or meet?  If you are answering yes to two or more of these questions you may be entering the yellow zone meaning “proceed with caution”.  If you don’t proceed with caution then you are allowing yourself to enter the red zone.

The red zone is full blown bridezilla tendencies and most likely you have gone to far.   Are you angry or edgy all the time? Has a bridesmaid dropped out from your wedding party?  Are you friends staying away from you more than usual?  Do you fight more with your fiance?  Are you having disagreements or changing vendors on a regular basis? Do you react very quickly to the slightest problem or change in your wedding planning?   If you have answered yes to two or more of these questions than you need to stop, take a deep breath and remember what your wedding is really all about.

As a wedding planner, I can tell within my first 10 minute consultation what type of bride she will be.  My job is to make them feel as comfortable as possible.  Since I am not part of their family, they find it very easy to speak with me about problems or questions as I will not judge them.

Brides, you don’t have to do it alone.   You don’t have to control every little detail.  Put some trust in your family, friends and fiance to help you along the way.  The more relaxed and calmer you are the better the wedding day will be.  Always remember….. if something  should go wrong, you are the only one who will knows as the guests were not privy to your planning process information.

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Should you Cut and Serve your Wedding Cake as dessert?

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Many of my brides ask me this question: should my wedding cake be my dessert?  Wedding cakes are so beautiful today with delicious flavors, colors, and designs that you would have never seen years ago.  If you have ever watch Cake Boss on TLC you will know what I am talking about.

So, you have purchased this elaborate and expensive cake and decide to serve it for dessert, immediately following the main course. When choosing this route, you need to keep the following in mind; first, remember your beautiful creation will need to be taken away well in advance, for the Chef to cut up hundreds of pieces.  Also, don’t forget to ask what cake cutting fee charges apply.  This may mean that the expensive cake you just purchased may be on display for a very short time and end costing you more than planned.

Why not consider buying a much smaller or fake cake for display purposes only, and have your baker make a large slab cake that is delivered to the Chef early in the day?  Another option that I mentioned in one of my previous posts, are individual table cakes.  You would have an approximately 10-12 inch round  wedding cake in the centre of each guest table with flowers on it.  Not only with this be your dessert after the meal but it is also your table centerpiece.    It’s a unique idea to consider.

If  your dream is to have a 3 or 4 tier (or more!) lavish wedding cake, then I would strongly recommend having the cake cut from a dessert station table in the hall.   At least this way, the cake is on the display for a few hours for all to see and they get another snack late in the evening.  You can even make it a highlight of the evening as you invite your guests to sip champagne and watch you cut the first piece.

I do feel compelled to tell you that in all of my hundreds of weddings, I would say most wedding cakes are hardly touched , especially if there is a pastry table set up along side of the cake.   We end up packing the cake up for the bride/groom to take home – so be careful how much cake is ordered.  If you have a wedding for 200 people and you are serving the cake from a table late in the evening you only need to have the cake serve about 60% of your guest in attendance.  Obviously this would not apply if you are serving it as your main dessert.

More and more guests prefer the “cupcake style” wedding cake.  I think it’s because they can grab one on the way to the dance floor, plus they are decorated so pretty now you just have to take one.  Look at various bakers in your area and see what the prices are.  Remember, most if not all places should be able to make you a small sample cake to taste before you buy.  Bon Appetite!

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