Wedding Timeline: Once You Say “Yes”

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As soon as you “say yes” there will be so many things going on your mind, so you want to get yourself organized.  Purchase a wedding book or a even a plain binder to keep track of all your wedding notes, bills, estimates and photos.

Planning a wedding is a lot of fun but does come with some stress and anxiety.  Here are some things you need to do first and then I have also provided a more detailed checklist below.

 Most importantly, set the date!

  • Determine where the ceremony will and reception will be
  • Determine how many guests you want (this could affect the type of venue you choose)
  • Determine the type of wedding you want (size, formality, style, color scheme)
  • Establish a budget (very important)
  • Select your invitations
  • Choose your bridal party
  • Start Shopping
  • Choose and secure a photographer
  • Choose and book your reception location
  • Select and secure your music
  • Begin choosing your wedding cake baker, videographer, and florist
  • Select your form of transportation for you and the bridal party
  • Think of honeymoon ideas

  Most vendors will require a deposit so make sure you carefully read through their contracts in the event you need to cancel or move the date.  All of the details can be worked out 3-4 months before the wedding but just make sure to secure the people you want early.  Once you select the venue, see when they will have weddings in-house so you can come by and view the set up.  This is so helpful seeing what colors, centerpieces, flow nicely in the reception centre.  Read wedding magazines and surf the internet to find some different and unique ideas.  

Attached is our more detailed wedding timeline:

Weddings are so much fun.  Enjoy, because your engagement will go by fast!!!!


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Bridezilla Warning Signs

Wedding stress Bridezilla Warning SignsThere is a bridezilla in every bride but the question remains if it is controlled or not. All of us have different personality types and perhaps that may play a role in becoming a bridezilla or not.  Any stressful situation can bring the worst out of us whether it’s a death, financial problems or planning a wedding.

Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your lives and you want everything to be perfect.  I guess the key word here is “perfection”.  To reach perfection is virtually impossible and we must learn to cope with some of the ups and downs that you will cross along the way.

Are you a bride in the green zone? Green being very relaxed and you just go with the flow.  You don’t obsess about the wedding 24/7  and openly accept help from others.  You know what you want and plan everything in it’s appropriate time  frame.

There are subtle warning signs of becoming a bridezilla which I call the yellow zone.  What are some of these signs you ask?  Well, do you think, live and breath wedding details?  Are you constantly on-line looking up information for hours on end? Do you find that you are spending less time with your fiance? Are you acting selfish and only talk about the wedding to every person you see or meet?  If you are answering yes to two or more of these questions you may be entering the yellow zone meaning “proceed with caution”.  If you don’t proceed with caution then you are allowing yourself to enter the red zone.

The red zone is full blown bridezilla tendencies and most likely you have gone to far.   Are you angry or edgy all the time? Has a bridesmaid dropped out from your wedding party?  Are you friends staying away from you more than usual?  Do you fight more with your fiance?  Are you having disagreements or changing vendors on a regular basis? Do you react very quickly to the slightest problem or change in your wedding planning?   If you have answered yes to two or more of these questions than you need to stop, take a deep breath and remember what your wedding is really all about.

As a wedding planner, I can tell within my first 10 minute consultation what type of bride she will be.  My job is to make them feel as comfortable as possible.  Since I am not part of their family, they find it very easy to speak with me about problems or questions as I will not judge them.

Brides, you don’t have to do it alone.   You don’t have to control every little detail.  Put some trust in your family, friends and fiance to help you along the way.  The more relaxed and calmer you are the better the wedding day will be.  Always remember….. if something  should go wrong, you are the only one who will knows as the guests were not privy to your planning process information.

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How to Ask Your Family to Help with Wedding Costs

wedding money How to Ask Your Family to Help with Wedding CostsHow do you ask your family to help out with some of the wedding bills?  By the time you add up the dress, limo,  venue and caterer, flowers, music, photographer, wedding cake, and so much more,  you will be amazed at your final tally.

First and most important rule is don’t spend more than you can afford.  A very nice and elegant wedding can be done on a budget.

In the past, parents of the bride would traditionally pay for the wedding while the groom’s parents took care of the rehearsal dinner.  Boy, has this changed.  More and more couples are paying for the wedding on their own and finding it very difficult to stay within their budget.  What can you do for help?

Obviously both sets of parents are going to contribute some type of monetary gift to the wedding.  The best thing you can do is set out a budget, put down all the items you would like to have and attach a cost associated with it.   Once this has been completed then set up a night with both sets of parents to let me know where you stand and areas you may need assistance in.  “Old school” parents want to see everything on paper and know exactly what you are spending.  See what their reactions are like because they may come out and say they are going to contribute a certain dollar amount.  If they don’ t say anything at all then you should approach the topic carefully and ask if they would help with a couple of things.

You know what financial situation your families are in so if you feel this would put too much pressure on them don’t ask for help and let them come to you.  Keep in mind though if you are asking for help they will have something to say about certain costs and you will most likely hear “do you really need that”?

If you are one of those lucky brides where Daddy is paying for it all then that is great.   If things don’t work out that way and you both are paying for the entire bill, you will receive gifts of money from your guests that you can certainly put towards all of your purchases.  Having a wedding is not a way to make money anymore.  Most couples are just happy to break even and enjoy the  celebration!

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Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

164327 176430345718508 176430129051863 520620 4161041 n 150x150 Writing Your Own Wedding VowsExchanging your wedding vows will be one of the most remembered moments of your ceremony.  That is when you say true words from your heart to each other.  Very few couples can come up with a last minute vow on the day of the wedding so take some time over the  weeks leading up to the wedding.  Do make sure that you discuss this with your officiant to ensure they will allow you to write them.  Many prefer that you used the traditional scripts.

What to say?  You and your fiance know each other best so speak from your heart.  Do you want to make it very traditional, create your own words or perhaps add a little humour?  Don’t make your vows sound as if you are doing a comedy show though.  This is a serious time so ensure to share your love and feelings for one another.  Perhaps you  want to write your vows together.  For some couples, they prefer to write them separately and share them for the first time at the altar.  Do your best to keep it short and no longer than a minute or two.  Remember, there is still plenty of time at the reception during the bride/groom speech to say a few more words.

Once you have it completed take sometime to practice it and memorize what you wrote.  If you feel comfortable then feel free to share with a family member or close friend.

The ceremony is truly the most meaningful part of a wedding.  Many times we forget this and concentrate so much time and energy on the reception, glitz and glamour and overlook on what is really important.


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